The Thrill of the Chase!

How many times can you count where you've misread a mans signals. Thought he liked you but really he was trying to save face and run for the hills, as soon as he could. You don't realize this until numerous calls or texts later when he gives you vague answers, and then he eventually doesn't respond. Realizing that he wasn’t into you in the first place.

This is a habit women tend to do when they fall for a guy or think they feel a "Spark". In reality you are just giving yourself false hopes. You see so many books out there that capture your eye stating, "How to get him back", "Marry the man of your dreams in one year", "The rules to trap a man into loving and marrying you" how about advice that works and that is actually honest. Where your not torturing yourself with anxiety and acting like a crazy person.

These books may all work, however the way I see dating is that you have to be 100% honest with him or else you will never get a meaningful guilt free relationship. Pretending to be someone else in order to get a guy will only land yourself in the rejection category later on.

How about honest insight to dating and relationships. That will not only open your eyes to the mistakes you've done, or will do before you do them. Lets say you royally messed up your chances. I want to give you a understanding of what happened, to give you closure if he didn't. When you've thought you've lost hope or start to feel your inner stalker coming out. Now don't torture yourself, educating yourself on rejection, relationships, and communication will help you to become a better dater and gain a better understanding of men. Because honey we may never fully get men.

Realizing that not everyone has to like you, and not everyone will. As long as you love yourself, and treat yourself with the utmost respect, that means not letting other people disrespect you. While also respecting other people, and their wishes.

Communication is so important when it comes to relationships and dating and we tend to close off the people we care about because we are afraid of getting hurt and letting them in. Which gives them the power to hurt us anyways.

Every relationship is a learning experience and with every experience we become wiser, stronger, and more in tune to the needs of others.

So With that I give you insight that will leave you satisfied give you the tools to change, and learn from other peoples mistakes and your own, and to live happily for you.

~No more waiting around!~

So what if he doesn't call. Your not torturing yourself sitting at home waiting for his call, nor are you imagining dates that do not exist. Lets face it we all know what it means when a guy doesn't call. Men and women really aren't all that different.

The difference is self restraint who can hold their own and who can be patient. That means not calling him and asking him for dates that is his job not yours. If he knows you are going to be in town for a week, he knows you don't need to remind him because if he likes you he will remember everything you say, for the most part.

Unfortunately it's true when they say men love the thrill of the chase. It is also true women love to be chased. Have you ever wonder why men love to go hunting and fishing. The thrill of the catch is no different than chasing women, "The thrill of the Chase".

First he maps out a plan of how he is going to catch his pray buys all the necessities, beer, tackle, guns, bait, and brings his buddies along.They camp out for days searching and waiting for that mama deer to come walking right into their traps. Or the Big bad bear who gives them a run for their money not going down with out a fight, and the little fish that catches on at first bait.

They wait, and wait, and oh do they wait patiently. Mama deer comes out behind a tree and slowly she walks towards the hunters, she's skeptical at first but she sees friendly territory, she gets closer, and closer, then bam she is finished.

The big bad bear doesn't care about the consequences nor will he go down with out a fight, walking around the forest with a bulls eye on his back. Giving the hunters exactly what they want, they take it, and are ready to go home.

The little fish who was caught at first bait who should have known better. Thinking this bite would be different.

What about that elk who comes into the forest just for a split sec and reads into the game and turns around and heads home. The hunters are not going to give up they are going to come back next weekend to get the elk. If they don't get him, then they will come back again and again... until they find a way. You get the drift.

You see Hunting and women have a lot in common, when it comes to men. As for women if you are the mama dear and you are at a bar and you don't go up to him at first but you make it obvious, you tried making eye contact all night and he wasn't responding. You are possibly going to scare him off or he will get you to take him back home and he will never call you again. If that is what you want then great, but don't expect to find a relationship with a guy who you take home from the bar especially when you first meet him.

If you are the big bad bear and you are the "I'm going get you, and eat you up" kind of girl. You are over controlling and sucking the thrill out of the chase. He might be enthralled at first. To say the least, however once you give him what he wants I.E. "give" he hasn't worked for it or even tried. He will take what he wants and leave your high flu ten booty without so much as a note or number.

The lil fish who should have known better at the first bait. But took the bait. Give a guy an obstacle he will try hard to get to you, don't give a guy any hoops to jump through he will only try hard enough to get what he wants and when you don't give it to him he will split in two seconds flat.

Don't be a mama dear, a big bad bear, or a lil fish unless you want to be in the woods making smoke signals to be rescued.

If you leave yourself wide open you are taking a chance to be forgotten…Now don't fully close yourself in. Just give it to him in small doses and make him work for it. If he doesn't want to work for you, he isn't interested. Men only work for women they want, and would want to keep. If you are giving your heart away for free don't expect to get anything back.

That means being an elk and knowing when enough is enough and having self restraint not taking him home, going to his place, or giving more than a kiss on the first date. If it wasn't even a date. No kiss is needed unless you really feel the need. If a guy doesn't have to date you to get into your pants he won't. If he likes you he will pursue you and date you and it won't matter when intimacy happens in the bedroom, Because intimacy will happen in your chemistry when you get to know each other.

When it comes down to it men love to show case their victory and want to hang that dear head, or bear skin on their wall, and eat up the lil fish they catch. Their victory symbolizes the chase and conquer.

One victory they must work for. Don't be a dear in head lights, be confident and sexy, also be honest and true to yourself.